Mindful Living Challenge – Listening To Understand {Week Eleven}

Mindful Living Challenge – Listening To Understand {Week Eleven}

“Listen. People start to heal the moment they feel heard.” – Cheryl Richardson

While browsing online for potential topics to include in this challenge, I have ended up coming across some important life lessons that I’m excited to write about and share.

One thing I’ve never thought much about being mindful of are the conversations we have with others.

When we interact with other people, what is usually our ultimate goal in the conversation? Is it to hear the other party’s view on things? Or is it to successfully get our point across?

I think that for most of our conversations, our goal would have to be the latter.

The majority of the time I’m talking to people, I have certain things and ideas that I want to share with them. That isn’t a bad thing in itself, but it becomes negative very quickly when we interject and slight the other party(ies) in our impatience for our turn to talk again.

To have an effective and constructive conversation, both sides need to be heard.

Whether you’re having an argument, debate, or a friendly discussion, everyone should be allowed to talk and, in turn, everyone deserves an attentive response. Sometimes, we’ll be so busy coming up with what we want to say next that we tune out the other person. Think about it – when you’ve shared something with someone that you’d appreciate feedback on, how discouraging is it when they absently “agree” with what you said, then proceed to talk about what they were thinking while you were talking?

I know that not all attention spans are the same, and I know different people in real life who struggle to balance listening and speaking, so it isn’t always an impatience issue. But I would like to challenge all of us to be more mindful (that’s the point of the challenge, right? haha) of our conversations with others – that we’d defend the quieter people who usually get talked over. In fact, that’s another point I want to make in this post:

One of our main goals in our conversations should always be to care about what other people say.

When I am excitedly discussing something with someone I love, I deeply appreciate it when they take in every word I say and then proceed to respond to my thoughts on the topic. I also enjoy hearing about their thoughts, but to really maintain a connection with someone, we have to be willing to give of our time, because listening to understand is the backbone of a good conversation.

So, I’d like to challenge you to make listening to understand your goal in all conversations this week. It can be tough to wait for our turn to talk when we have things we’re wanting to say, but I can assure you that it will be extremely rewarding to give the people in your life your listening ears. ❤

Why I Want To Listen To Understand:

  • I want every conversation I have to be based upon effective communication.
  • I want to put more effort into understanding others’ opinions and respecting them.
  • I want to do for others as I would have them do for me.

Why do you want to listen to understand?
Will you join me on this challenge?

“Be as passionate about listening as you are about wanting to be heard.” – Brené Brown

Mindful Living Challenge – Avoiding Procrastination {Week Ten}

Mindful Living Challenge – Avoiding Procrastination {Week Ten}

“Waiting is just delaying your desired result.” – Kylie Francis

Any time I have a project that I’ve been putting off working on for a long time, my automatic response to being reminded of it is, I’ll do that another time.

My closet is a prime example of this. It will take a lot of work to empty it, decide on what I want to keep and what I want to throw out, then organize it back into a closet again. I look at big projects as one huge step instead of many little steps, which is what they actually are!

We tend to see various life changes, projects, etc. as huge things, instead of a sequence of many tiny things.

It’s easy for us to put off starting something (or finishing something) because our focus is the end result, which will always seems insurmountable.

When I decided two summers ago that I wanted to start drinking the right amount of water for my body, I knew that I wouldn’t get to that point in one day. I broke it down into steps, and I ended up learning so much along the way. It was discouraging sometimes, because for weeks, I had to force myself to drink water when I wasn’t even thirsty. However, I stayed focus on the end result while working toward it in a progressive, attainable manner. Instead of being discouraged by the fact that my body couldn’t handle sufficient hydration at first (i.e. I started retaining water), I knew that through work and determination, I would be able to comfortably drink eight glasses of water one day.

Recommended Post: Staying Hydrated: My 5 Tips

I think it’s crazy that so many people act like they’re proud procrastinators. I suppose they’re being sarcastic, but are they really owning the fact that they don’t get things done??

Making light of the fact that we don’t complete things we start is a dangerous way to live.

What if we were to instead rejoice over the fact that we’re always checking things off our to do list? I don’t think we should become self-conceited, or anything (haha), but it would be awesome if we all knew we were spending our days wisely. It feels lazy and wasteful to put things off, while in contrast, it feels so good to get things done!

This week, I’m encouraging you to avoid procrastination in this week of the Mindful Living Challenge. It can be a struggle to finally commit to a task or challenge you’ve been skirting for the longest time, but I can assure you, you will be so happy that you finally decided to do it today!

Here are some prompts for you to consider. You can answer them in the comments below if you’d like, but I also encourage you to simply answer them for yourself:

Is there anything in my life I’ve been putting off starting or completing?

Do I have everything I need to begin work on this thing?

What is stopping me from completing it?

Why do I want to do this thing in the first place?

What are my dream end results?

Why I Want To Avoid Procrastination:

  • Accomplishing things feels so much better than putting things off.
  • I want to learn the art of dedication and determination, even when I don’t exactly “feel” like it.
  • I want to spend my time as wisely as I can.
  • I want to look back at how I’ve prioritized and be proud of myself.
  • I want to enjoy my room without always feeling like there are huge projects that need doing.

Why do you want to avoid procrastination?
Will you join me on this challenge?

“A year from now, you’ll wish you’d started today.” – Unknown

Come visit my Christian living blog, Living For His Delightfor more inspiration and encouragement!

Mindful Living Challenge – Learning From Mistakes {Week Nine}

Mindful Living Challenge – Learning From Mistakes {Week Nine}

“Remember that life’s greatest lessons are usually learned at the worst times and from the worst mistakes.” – Unknown

Having perfectionistic tendencies have held me back from learning a great many lessons in life.

When I make a mistake, whether that’s in cooking, driving, gaming, blogging, crafting, etc., I feel very poorly about myself. Instead of being able to say, I’ll know what to do next time (or what not to do next time), I say to myself, Why didn’t you do the right thing THIS time?

I don’t really know what it means to take a situation and learn from it. Usually, I allow my mistakes to haunt me instead of teach me. If I say something stupid, or I make a simple mistake, I keep replaying it in my head, as if that will help me to work through it. I’m tired of doing this to myself.

Recently, the Lord has been helping me to see just how much my perfectionist nature is severely impacting my life in negative ways. It is because of what He’s teaching me that I’m writing this

I want to try new things, and I want to be fine if I fail. I want to see that even when something doesn’t come naturally to me, new skills and strengthened understanding are worth working for.

I want to play games, try out new recipes, attempt DIY projects, and expand my knowledge on various subjects and allow myself the room I need to grow. I don’t want to only participate in activities that come naturally to me; I want to move out of my comfort zone.

I want to enjoy trying new things without the need to always succeed.

I’m making learning from mistakes part of the Mindful Living Challenge because it’s something huge in my life that needs working on. I’m praying about it, thinking things through, and changing my views toward it, because I’m tired of living in the past and only doing what is easy.

I’m going to start accepting the fact that I’m human, that mistakes are inevitable and are actually necessary and beneficial, because that is how I will truly learn.

In the next few weeks, you will start seeing more creative / educational posts on my blog. One of my current focuses is trying new things, and any time those things don’t work out the way I think they will, I’ll stay positive and try again. I can’t wait to see where these optimistic changes will take me! ❤

Why I Want To Learn From Mistakes:

  • I want to start baking and crafting again (I stopped both because I was afraid of failing).
  • It is very important that I learn from the past instead of being burdened by it.
  • It will improve my overall quality of life.
  • I’ll be able to make progress and enjoy the process of learning.
  • I’ll become the person the Lord desires for me to be.

Why do you want to learn from mistakes?
Will you join me on this challenge?

“Failure is simply the opportunity to begin again, this time more intelligently.” – Henry Ford

Come visit my Christian living blog, Living For His Delightfor more inspiration and encouragement!

50 Questions To Get To Know Yourself {Part Two}

50 Questions To Get To Know Yourself {Part Two}

Here’s part two of this post! I’ll be answering the second set of 25 questions to learn more about myself, as well as share better insight into who I am. ❤ Click here to read the article that provided these questions.

50 Questions To
Get To Know Yourself
{Part Two}

26. What inspires you the most?

When I’m reading the Bible and a verse stands out to me.

27. What do you think people misunderstand about you?

When I don’t participate in conversations. I’ll often do more listening than I do actively adding to what’s being talked about, and it’s usually because there’s not enough break in the conversation for me to contribute my thoughts. I’m not usually confident enough to say to whomever is present, “Hey, I’d like a turn talking now.” But really, that’s what I’d have to do if I want to be heard. So, people don’t understand my silence.

28. List your top three accomplishments.

I honestly have no idea what to answer this question with right now. Call me back later, haha

29. What is your favorite childhood memory?

Well, I used to love watching my sweet guinea pig, Oreo, run around the living room when she had time out of her cage. It was so much fun to watch. (Just as long as we didn’t lose her under the couch…)

I loved that girl!

30. What were the most recent moments in your life when you felt truly happy?

*tilts head and squints eyes a bit* Why are these questions stumping me right now? Alright, let’s see – when this post got a good response (thanks, guys!), and enjoying reading different books.

31. What lesson have you learned in life that is the most valuable?

The Lord gives us enough strength to face each day, and it’s up to us to trust Him with our future. ❤

32. Has there been a time where you felt inadequate in any situation? What did you do?

Like I mentioned, allowing people to talk over me. Being too polite has cost me instances when I could have engaged in past conversations, and I really regret that.

33. What is one obstacle that you have overcome and are extremely proud of?

Being absolutely terrified of all things medical. I still don’t like them (like, um, at all haha), but realizing how very necessary procedures are (and how blessed I am that they even exist!) has gotten me through what would have been impossible situations. I’ve been able to have different minor surgeries (and my first major surgery) without going berserk.

34. What advice would you give your younger self?

The Lord has you in His hands. Yeah, it may not seem like it at times – in fact, a lot of times, it really won’t – but He’s got you. I promise. Just because you’re not getting exactly what you want right now doesn’t mean that He doesn’t have absolutely beautiful plans for you!

35. If you could go back and do something differently in your life, what would it be?

Trusted in the Lord more. Then, whatever came my way wouldn’t have hurt so much.

36. What is something that you do now, that you never thought you would?

Have a blog with more than ten followers. True story. #AnythingIsPossible

37. What was one of the happiest moments in your life?

Meeting my baby sister, Elizabeth! I’d been wanting a sister for years.

38. What have you learned about yourself in the past few years?

Just how strong I am. Well, when I rely on the Lord’s strength, that is – He’s helped me through DOZENS of things these past few years, probably more than I realize. So, check that – how strong I am in the Lord.

39. What do you want to achieve by this time next year?

Eh, all the little goals I’m working toward right now. I’d also love to have more confidence in conversations! (That’s an ongoing theme in this post, I think…)

40. What do you want to achieve in five years?

Well uh, I really don’t know what I’ll even be doing in a year … ? The only thing I can think of right now (mind you, it’s feeble) is fluency in ASL. That would be fantastic.

41. What is holding you back from your future accomplishments?

Money?? lol nah, I’m putting all my time, energy, and focus into being the daughter and big sister my family needs. So, nothing, really – I’m just trusting in the Lord’s timing to lead me.

42. What do you think your purpose is in life?

To love the Lord and fulfill HIS purposes for me. ❤

43. How would you fulfill that purpose?


44. List three things you want to accomplish this year.

I’m keeping my resolutions/goals/aspirations for 2019 private.

45. What steps are you taking to achieve your goals right now?

Complete secrecy. *slow nod*

46. Are your habits helping or hindering you from reaching your goals?

Helping! The mindful living challenge alone has helped me immensely.

47. What legacy do you want to leave on the world?

When people think of me, I want them to remember enjoying my presence, how I could make anything funny. When people look at my life as a whole, I’d love for them to be inspired by my love and affection for people.

48. What do you expect from yourself?

Too much.

49. What area in your life needs improvement?

All of it. Haha, sarcasm aside, how I look at myself.

50. What steps are you taking to make those improvements?

Complete secrecy. *double take* Wait, I think I already used that line…

Oh, boy. Fifty deep questions over the course of a week!! I really enjoyed answering them, though ❤

Feel free to answer any of the questions you saw above in the comments below!

50 Questions To Get To Know Yourself {Part One}

50 Questions To Get To Know Yourself {Part One}

On Wednesdays, I’m currently blogging about tags and awards! For this week and the next, I’ll be answering a set of 50 questions to get to know myself better. It will be a great exercise for me, as well as a way for new readers to learn more about this writer! Click here to read the article that provided these questions.

Continue reading “50 Questions To Get To Know Yourself {Part One}”

Look For The Best In People

Look For The Best In People

When you look for the best in people,
You’re giving them a chance to be
The person that they know they are,
The one that they can see.

When you look for the best in people,
In time, I’m sure you’ll find
That feeling positively toward others
Will beautifully change your mind.

When you look for the best in people,
You will begin to forgive yourself,
For we are all in need of forgiveness,
No more grudges kept on the shelf.

When you look for the best people,
You will feel your love for them grow …
They appreciate your forgiveness
More than you’ll ever know.

Hello! I hope that you’re having a beautiful Sunday morning! Thank you so much for reading 💖 I’m praying that this poem could encourage and inspire you just as much as it helped me to write. ☺️

Have a blessed new week!