A few months ago, I was talking to my mom and a friend of ours, and one of the topics that came up was the Lord’s timing. All three of us agreed that the Lord works in mysterious ways, and that His timing is completely different than our own. In that conversation, I suddenly had a new understanding about this that I know is from the Lord. ❤
It’s been a long time since I shared a post like this. It’s good to be back!
Hi there! ❤ My goodness, it has been far too long since I felt like myself on this blog. There are so many things I want to share with you in this post, because even though I’ve been posting on and off for the past several months, I haven’t actually been expressing what’s been going on in my life and how I’m really feeling about everything.
If you are currently in a season of your life where you’re waiting on the Lord’s answer to a need or desire that’s on your heart, then this post is for you. ❤
“Listen. People start to heal the moment they feel heard.” – Cheryl Richardson
While browsing online for potential topics to include in this challenge, I have ended up coming across some important life lessons that I’m excited to write about and share.
One thing I’ve never thought much about being mindful of are the conversations we have with others.
When we interact with other people, what is usually our ultimate goal in the conversation? Is it to hear the other party’s view on things? Or is it to successfully get our point across?
I think that for most of our conversations, our goal would have to be the latter.
The majority of the time I’m talking to people, I have certain things and ideas that I want to share with them. That isn’t a bad thing in itself, but it becomes negative very quickly when we interject and slight the other party(ies) in our impatience for our turn to talk again.
To have an effective and constructive conversation, both sides need to be heard.
Whether you’re having an argument, debate, or a friendly discussion, everyone should be allowed to talk and, in turn, everyone deserves an attentive response. Sometimes, we’ll be so busy coming up with what we want to say next that we tune out the other person. Think about it – when you’ve shared something with someone that you’d appreciate feedback on, how discouraging is it when they absently “agree” with what you said, then proceed to talk about what they were thinking while you were talking?
I know that not all attention spans are the same, and I know different people in real life who struggle to balance listening and speaking, so it isn’t always an impatience issue. But I would like to challenge all of us to be more mindful (that’s the point of the challenge, right? haha) of our conversations with others – that we’d defend the quieter people who usually get talked over. In fact, that’s another point I want to make in this post:
One of our main goals in our conversations should always be to care about what other people say.
When I am excitedly discussing something with someone I love, I deeply appreciate it when they take in every word I say and then proceed to respond to my thoughts on the topic. I also enjoy hearing about their thoughts, but to really maintain a connection with someone, we have to be willing to give of our time, because listening to understand is the backbone of a good conversation.
So, I’d like to challenge you to make listening to understand your goal in all conversations this week. It can be tough to wait for our turn to talk when we have things we’re wanting to say, but I can assure you that it will be extremely rewarding to give the people in your life your listening ears. ❤
Why I Want To Listen To Understand:
- I want every conversation I have to be based upon effective communication.
- I want to put more effort into understanding others’ opinions and respecting them.
- I want to do for others as I would have them do for me.
Why do you want to listen to understand?
Will you join me on this challenge?
“Be as passionate about listening as you are about wanting to be heard.” – Brené Brown
“Waiting is just delaying your desired result.” – Kylie Francis
Any time I have a project that I’ve been putting off working on for a long time, my automatic response to being reminded of it is, I’ll do that another time.
My closet is a prime example of this. It will take a lot of work to empty it, decide on what I want to keep and what I want to throw out, then organize it back into a closet again. I look at big projects as one huge step instead of many little steps, which is what they actually are!
We tend to see various life changes, projects, etc. as huge things, instead of a sequence of many tiny things.
It’s easy for us to put off starting something (or finishing something) because our focus is the end result, which will always seems insurmountable.
When I decided two summers ago that I wanted to start drinking the right amount of water for my body, I knew that I wouldn’t get to that point in one day. I broke it down into steps, and I ended up learning so much along the way. It was discouraging sometimes, because for weeks, I had to force myself to drink water when I wasn’t even thirsty. However, I stayed focus on the end result while working toward it in a progressive, attainable manner. Instead of being discouraged by the fact that my body couldn’t handle sufficient hydration at first (i.e. I started retaining water), I knew that through work and determination, I would be able to comfortably drink eight glasses of water one day.
I think it’s crazy that so many people act like they’re proud procrastinators. I suppose they’re being sarcastic, but are they really owning the fact that they don’t get things done??
Making light of the fact that we don’t complete things we start is a dangerous way to live.
What if we were to instead rejoice over the fact that we’re always checking things off our to do list? I don’t think we should become self-conceited, or anything (haha), but it would be awesome if we all knew we were spending our days wisely. It feels lazy and wasteful to put things off, while in contrast, it feels so good to get things done!
This week, I’m encouraging you to avoid procrastination in this week of the Mindful Living Challenge. It can be a struggle to finally commit to a task or challenge you’ve been skirting for the longest time, but I can assure you, you will be so happy that you finally decided to do it today!
Here are some prompts for you to consider. You can answer them in the comments below if you’d like, but I also encourage you to simply answer them for yourself:
Is there anything in my life I’ve been putting off starting or completing?
Do I have everything I need to begin work on this thing?
What is stopping me from completing it?
Why do I want to do this thing in the first place?
What are my dream end results?
Why I Want To Avoid Procrastination:
- Accomplishing things feels so much better than putting things off.
- I want to learn the art of dedication and determination, even when I don’t exactly “feel” like it.
- I want to spend my time as wisely as I can.
- I want to look back at how I’ve prioritized and be proud of myself.
- I want to enjoy my room without always feeling like there are huge projects that need doing.
Why do you want to avoid procrastination?
Will you join me on this challenge?
“A year from now, you’ll wish you’d started today.” – Unknown
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“Remember that life’s greatest lessons are usually learned at the worst times and from the worst mistakes.” – Unknown
Having perfectionistic tendencies have held me back from learning a great many lessons in life.
When I make a mistake, whether that’s in cooking, driving, gaming, blogging, crafting, etc., I feel very poorly about myself. Instead of being able to say, I’ll know what to do next time (or what not to do next time), I say to myself, Why didn’t you do the right thing THIS time?
I don’t really know what it means to take a situation and learn from it. Usually, I allow my mistakes to haunt me instead of teach me. If I say something stupid, or I make a simple mistake, I keep replaying it in my head, as if that will help me to work through it. I’m tired of doing this to myself.
Recently, the Lord has been helping me to see just how much my perfectionist nature is severely impacting my life in negative ways. It is because of what He’s teaching me that I’m writing this
I want to try new things, and I want to be fine if I fail. I want to see that even when something doesn’t come naturally to me, new skills and strengthened understanding are worth working for.
I want to play games, try out new recipes, attempt DIY projects, and expand my knowledge on various subjects and allow myself the room I need to grow. I don’t want to only participate in activities that come naturally to me; I want to move out of my comfort zone.
I want to enjoy trying new things without the need to always succeed.
I’m making learning from mistakes part of the Mindful Living Challenge because it’s something huge in my life that needs working on. I’m praying about it, thinking things through, and changing my views toward it, because I’m tired of living in the past and only doing what is easy.
I’m going to start accepting the fact that I’m human, that mistakes are inevitable and are actually necessary and beneficial, because that is how I will truly learn.
In the next few weeks, you will start seeing more creative / educational posts on my blog. One of my current focuses is trying new things, and any time those things don’t work out the way I think they will, I’ll stay positive and try again. I can’t wait to see where these optimistic changes will take me! ❤
Why I Want To Learn From Mistakes:
- I want to start baking and crafting again (I stopped both because I was afraid of failing).
- It is very important that I learn from the past instead of being burdened by it.
- It will improve my overall quality of life.
- I’ll be able to make progress and enjoy the process of learning.
- I’ll become the person the Lord desires for me to be.
Why do you want to learn from mistakes?
Will you join me on this challenge?
“Failure is simply the opportunity to begin again, this time more intelligently.” – Henry Ford