“To be trusted is a greater compliment than to be loved.” – George MacDonald
There have been several situations in my life when I told someone I would do something, but then it completely slipped my mind.
Sometimes, it was a simple task that didn’t really matter if I forgot to do it. Other times, it was very important that I remembered, so when I didn’t, things quickly went downhill.
Regardless of the importance of the requests others make of us (and even the goals we set for ourselves), we become unreliable when our promises are not backed by follow-through.
Think about it: when someone has forgotten to do something you asked of them, was your first inclination to believe they had honestly forgotten about it? Or did you begin to question their accountability, and their desire to help you? For me, it depends on the person. If it’s a family member and there’s a history of mutual trust between us, then it’s usually related to our circumstances. However, if it was the first instance I trusted someone to do something, then it’s very probable that I won’t be trusting them with anything else in the near future.
Earning someone’s trust is extremely hard to build up, and then excruciatingly easy to tear back down.
There are so many opportunities in our everyday lives for us to prove to others that we’re accountable. This can even also go for ourselves! When we set goals and make to do lists of things we personally want to get done, we should hold ourselves to that standard. Now, that’s not to say that life isn’t going to get in the way at times – there are going to be days where situations come up that prevent us from checking everything off our list. However, if procrastination and laziness are the only things getting in the way of what would make us happy to accomplish, then we’re going to start doubting that we’re even capable of doing those things at all.
Now, I’m not saying this to be a downer, I promise! I’ve talked about some big issues over the weeks for this challenge, and I am in no way coming down on anyone. All of the topics I’ve covered are things I very much need to work on. So, if these posts convict you in any way to start changing for the better, know that the same is true for me, too.
I want to get in the habit of putting others’ trust in me first. If that means I have to write down what they’ve asked or I set a reminder on my phone, I want to make sure I go to the lengths it takes to keep myself reliable in their eyes. This also, of course, goes for myself – when it’s possible for me to do something I’ve been wanting to get done, I want to take the steps needed to get there.
This week, I challenge you to really pay attention when people ask things of you. These requests could be from a family member, a co-worker, a classmate, or a blogging friend! If it is within your ability to do what they’ve asked, put in all of your effort into doing it. If you know from the moment they ask that you cannot fulfill the request for whatever reason, TELL THEM. It is much more appreciated to be told this than to be expecting something will be done, and then it isn’t. Even if you just ask if the task can be done at a later date, be kind enough to let them know that right now isn’t possible.
Good communication and maintaining people’s trust are two important aspects of healthy relationships!
Why I Want To Be Trustworthy:
- I want my family to know that I care enough about them to keep my word.
- I want other people I interact with to know that I’m dependable + gaining their trust (and keeping it!) matters to me.
- I want to believe in myself and what I’m able to do, even if it has taken me a while to finally do it.
Why do you want to be trustworthy?
Will you join me on this challenge?
“Whoever is careless with the truth in small matters cannot be trusted with important matters.” – Albert Einstein