“Listen. People start to heal the moment they feel heard.” – Cheryl Richardson
While browsing online for potential topics to include in this challenge, I have ended up coming across some important life lessons that I’m excited to write about and share.
One thing I’ve never thought much about being mindful of are the conversations we have with others.
When we interact with other people, what is usually our ultimate goal in the conversation? Is it to hear the other party’s view on things? Or is it to successfully get our point across?
I think that for most of our conversations, our goal would have to be the latter.
The majority of the time I’m talking to people, I have certain things and ideas that I want to share with them. That isn’t a bad thing in itself, but it becomes negative very quickly when we interject and slight the other party(ies) in our impatience for our turn to talk again.
To have an effective and constructive conversation, both sides need to be heard.
Whether you’re having an argument, debate, or a friendly discussion, everyone should be allowed to talk and, in turn, everyone deserves an attentive response. Sometimes, we’ll be so busy coming up with what we want to say next that we tune out the other person. Think about it – when you’ve shared something with someone that you’d appreciate feedback on, how discouraging is it when they absently “agree” with what you said, then proceed to talk about what they were thinking while you were talking?
I know that not all attention spans are the same, and I know different people in real life who struggle to balance listening and speaking, so it isn’t always an impatience issue. But I would like to challenge all of us to be more mindful (that’s the point of the challenge, right? haha) of our conversations with others – that we’d defend the quieter people who usually get talked over. In fact, that’s another point I want to make in this post:
One of our main goals in our conversations should always be to care about what other people say.
When I am excitedly discussing something with someone I love, I deeply appreciate it when they take in every word I say and then proceed to respond to my thoughts on the topic. I also enjoy hearing about their thoughts, but to really maintain a connection with someone, we have to be willing to give of our time, because listening to understand is the backbone of a good conversation.
So, I’d like to challenge you to make listening to understand your goal in all conversations this week. It can be tough to wait for our turn to talk when we have things we’re wanting to say, but I can assure you that it will be extremely rewarding to give the people in your life your listening ears. ❤
Why I Want To Listen To Understand:
- I want every conversation I have to be based upon effective communication.
- I want to put more effort into understanding others’ opinions and respecting them.
- I want to do for others as I would have them do for me.
Why do you want to listen to understand?
Will you join me on this challenge?
“Be as passionate about listening as you are about wanting to be heard.” – Brené Brown