There have been many moments in my life when I have wished that my initial, natural response to situations could be described as gentle. When I picture someone who exhibits gentleness, I see someone who loves considerately, moves with grace and precision, and is easily likeable. I see someone who thinks through what they say and is consistently patient. You know who I’m seeing?
The person I want to be.
Do you want to be gentle, too?
Hey there, guys! I hope that you’re all doing well (: I’m very happy to have a new Cultivating A Joyful Life post to share with you! This one will be centered on a topic that is very near and dear to my heart, but is also one that I struggle with greatly.
When I respond “naturally,” which is unfortunately the case, to a situation that upsets me in some way, the reply I end up giving is never one that I’m happy with later. I’ll think about the words I gave or the gesture I made and wonder why I didn’t think it through, or come up with something more positive first … the list goes on, and is of course unique to each situation. As a whole, though, I continually come back to desiring a heart of gentleness – which is what I’ll be talking about today. ❤
Every time I write a new post for this series, I am blessed again and again by the fact that each topic I choose has easily been comparable to a garden, and this post is no exception. God is so good!
Flowers are such delicate plants. It takes a patient, careful, and gentle person to help them live and flourish. You can’t rightly picture a quick, rough person as having the ability to cradle a flower as the person in the picture I’ve shared above is doing, can you? I certainly can’t. In fact, I see someone much like I mentioned at the beginning of this post caring for a flower in such a way. And while my desire to cultivate gentler behavior in my life isn’t motivated by wanting the ability to carefully cradle a flower (haha!), I’m sure that it would be much easier to exhibit such gentleness if I put this into regular, deliberate practice.
Where do you desire to see more gentleness in your life? In your words, your mental well-being, your outward actions? In the rest of this post, I will share quotes, Bible verses, and my personal tips on improving all three of these areas. ❤
Establishing A Heart of Gentleness
The first step toward greater gentleness is a change of mindset. Deciding that you will exhibit kinder, more thoughtful actions is where it all begins. From there, beautiful habits will blossom, old ones will fade away, and you will find yourself becoming more gentle with each day that goes by. ❤
“But the wisdom from above is first of all pure. It is also peace loving, gentle at all times, and willing to yield to others. It is full of mercy and the fruit of good deeds. It shows no favoritism and is always sincere.” – James 3:17 NLT, emphasis mine
Another thing that helps me is being more mindful. When we’re conscious of how we’re thinking, acting, and talking, it’s so much easier to slow down and think things through. For example, we can take an extra moment and give more gentle responses by taking the time to consider what the affects of what we’re planning to say will have on the person receiving them. I have avoided wrong responses by taking just those few seconds.
“Nothing is so strong as gentleness and nothing is so gentle as real strength.” – Ralph W. Sockman
“Being both soft and strong is a combination very few have mastered.”
3 Bible Verses About Gentleness
- “Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.” – Matthew 11:29 NIV
- “Let your gentleness be evident to all…” – Philippians 4:5 NIV
- “A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.” – Proverbs 15:1 NIV
Thank you all so much for reading! This was a beautiful post for me to write, and it has helped me to get my focus back in the right place. I’m looking forward to putting these tips into practice (: At the moment, I plan to study chapters in the Bible that focus on gentleness and kindness of heart (let me know if you have any recommendations!), slow down and make more mindful decisions, and pray that the Lord will strengthen my steps. ❤
Let me know in the comments below:
Do YOU desire to be gentle?
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