Blog Comparison: The Thief of Our Joy

Blog Comparison: The Thief of Our Joy

I have fewer followers than she does. They get more comments than I do. That blogger’s content looks better than mine.

Have you ever had any of those thoughts? If so, you are one of the masses that struggle with blogger comparison.

Here in the wonderful world of blogging, just like in any other community or group of people, there is comparison. We recognize that there are others who are more accomplished, and less accomplished, than we are. We look to see, often without even meaning to, if we’re better than those around us, and when we come up with a negative, it really rains on our parade.

When looking directly at our own blogs, not taking into consideration what others’ blogs are like, we usually see wonderful content, a great theme and setup, a nice amount of followers, and good comment counts. Our behind-the-scene stats are satisfying, too – there’s always so many cool statistics to be found there! When we turn our attention to others, however, whether it’s their numbers or content that gets to us, it’s hard to accept that there will always be bloggers who have it more “together” than we do.

Because, in truth, we struggle to accept that we’re not always on top. It’s hard to go from being content with what we have, to wanting and needing more because it isn’t exactly what others have. We see all the comments they get, the multiple-digit follower count, whatever it might be, knowing that they have more than we do.

Sometimes, I’ve been envious of blogger statuses I’ve seen that I wouldn’t even personally want for myself! It’s really the fact that they have more than I do that makes me jealous, which I know is wrong. I don’t desire to harbor this irritation in my heart, and starting here recently, I’m taking the steps to be content with my blog as it is, and to slowly work toward being exactly where I want to be.

Below, I have compiled some different things I think will help you combat these negative feelings. It would bless me so much to know that I could help just one person!

First, I’d like to establish that there are two main groups of bloggers: the ones who would love to grow in the community, and the ones who are blogging for themselves and are happy wherever their stats are.

Over the years, I’ve fit into both of these groups. I have run blogs that I was writing on solely for myself – those were really online journals, to tell you the truth. Then, with other blogs, I wanted to get to know people, receive comments and get feedback – you know. Dreaming of Guatemala is the main one I’ve wanted to cultivate and write for myself, as well as others.

I find it quite easy to blog when it’s just for you. There isn’t the pressure of keeping up to date with your audience, blogging consistently, etc – it feels much more relaxed, because it is. When anything we do online involves others, we like to keep up with our friends and talk to them on a regular basis. I understand that, and I don’t think there’s a thing wrong with either way of online interacting.

When we’re blogging to grow, however, the weight we put on ourselves can be excruciating sometimes.

Weekly posts. Blog reading. Comment responding. Social media promoting. Blog maintenance. The list is usually endless! When we’re not careful, blogging can become a full-time side job.

+ To the full-time bloggers, especially the ones who get paid: I realize that all of that is quite necessary to keep up with, and I admire all the time you wonderful bloggers put into your blogs!! I can’t see myself ever doing that, as I love blogging as a hobby, but man. Y’all are pretty awesome people.

+ To the small-audience bloggers who are happy where they are: I applaud you!! I have always seen the appeal in writing for yourself, as well as having a few friends who keep up with your blog, too – I’ve been there before, and I have quite enjoyed it. Keep doing what you love, and do it for as long as it makes you happy. When you feel it’s time to move on, whether that’s to switch blogs, stop blogging for a while, or begin growing your audience, chase after what’s on your heart to accomplish! πŸ’—

+ To the small-audience bloggers who desire to grow: I was right where you are this past winter. In the whole month of January, I had gotten just over 500 total views and 105 comments. This month, at about my six-month blogging mark, I hit 5,000 comments and got my 800th follower. It’s hard to figure out how to grow if you’ve never done it before, or if you’ve tried and your tactics didn’t work. We all meet stumbling blocks in our blogging lives, no matter how popular our blogs might be.

If you are looking for ways to grow your blog, I’ll share my tactics with you. They’re actually very simple.

First, be a consistent part of the community. If that means blogging every day for you, or once or twice a week, follow your heart. That aside, read your friends blogs and, as you’re in the mood, browse tags in the Reader and reach out to others with similar interests. Make connections in my personal favorite way to build your audience: through friendships. Respond to the comments you receive on your blog, hold conversations with others; be open to getting to know people.

Second, write the kind of posts that YOU would want to read. If at any point in your time of blogging you feel like you’re writing too many obligatory posts, or if you’ve become discontent with that series you’ve been keeping up with, switch things up. Make an inspiration board on Pinterest. Brainstorm new post topic ideas. Take a week off, if you need it.

Third, include others on your blog. I wouldn’t say that this is crucial to your standing in the community, but I do believe that it’s a great way to connect with others and bring some sunshine into other bloggers’ day! Invite them to participate in conversation by ending posts with a prompt question that relates to the post itself. Interview other bloggers and share them on your blog,  visually interesting. Host reader-submitted stories and make it a series, invite others to leave you questions for a Q&A post or video, or nominate your favorite bloggers in your next award/tag post! It blesses bloggers to be included; I know how happy I always feel to be part of something – anything! – on others’ blogs.

+ To the bloggers who struggle with envy, regardless of what their blogs are like: chase after what makes you happy. Focus on the joy your blog brings you and leave jealous feelings behind. They’re only bringing you down; they accomplish nothing. Although, if nothing else, they’re an encouragement to grow your blog, and/or make positive changes to it. Learn to accept that their are bloggers who run bigger and smaller blogs than yours. That doesn’t in any way alter the fact that your blog is a masterpiece just the way it is!! πŸ’š

Did this post help you? I’d love to know! It surely encouraged me. xx

44 thoughts on “Blog Comparison: The Thief of Our Joy

  1. “Comparison is the thief of joy”…that’s a quote that stays near and dear to my heart; it is so relevant in so many ways. And you’re right, it can be hard to look at other people’s blogs and realize that you aren’t where you hoped you would be despite the work you’ve put in. But you’re right, all we can do is keep going and keep writing about things that we are passionate about. I will continue making content that I would enjoy reading and hope all that other stuff works itself out! Thank you so much for sharing, Maggie!

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    1. This comment ended up in my spam folder, so my apologies for the late reply! That quote has helped me to stay focused on the good in my life and not to compare it to what others have. If I was happy with my blog before looking at others’ stat numbers and quality content, then that’s what matters! You’re very welcome, Brittney. Thank you for stopping by!

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  2. If I’m being honest, of course I would love more followers. I do sometimes wish my blog would become popular. But the main reason I started it was for my friends and family to see my pictures and videos and hear my thoughts on stuff, and they do. As long as somebody reads it, that’s enough.

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  3. That was one dose of ENCOURAGEMENT! I’m one of those struggling to figure out of blogging was really a thing for me or not. This helped! I should probably reread it whenever I find a dip in my motivation. Thankew❀️

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  4. Aww Maggie!! That’s such an amazing post, I really loved it!! We’ve all been in those times when we are jealous of other bloggers thinking that they are better than us but the whole thing is to just be ourselves in our blogs and always love our content the way it is! Those were really amazing tips. Especially the ones you wrote about ‘when you’d want to increase your community or followers’ as I currently belong to that group, I’d really wanna follow your tips!
    xxx

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  5. I always love the honesty in your writing Maggie πŸ™‚ You know I am a firm believer in not letting anything steal your joy and focus on the things that are blessings. Blogging to me seems to be something that should at least be enjoyable. Of course, I’m not a blogger, in the traditional sense but still seems it should be joyful, not a chore. It should be done as long as it brings you happiness, and if at some point it doesn’t then don’t do it any more. I am blessed, I don’t have to come up with new content, God does that for me :):) That frees up time to look around at others blogs and read the uplifting messages, poems, photos, etc. and comment if I feel the need to say something hahaha, but when don’t I feel the need to say something πŸ˜‰ If I was wanting to conquer the blogging world, your steps would seem to be the way to go πŸ™‚ God bless you, I pray your cold is getting better πŸ™‚

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  6. This is such an encouraging post Maggie!! I’m guilty sometimes of comparing myself to other bloggers who post more than I do, or have more followers or get more likes and comments on their posts. I just need to instead be grateful for what I have with my blog and support my fellow bloggers instead of envy them 😊 xx

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  7. This pretty much covers how I feel every time I read someone else’s poetry and flash fiction blog. I’ve been blogging for years and sometimes it can feel like thumping your head against a brick wall, especially when it feels like you’ve constantly got to churn out new content to keep up.
    It’s good to know that I’m not the only one with those feelings and you’re right, comparison is the thief of joy. We should focus on doing what makes us happy.

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    1. I have felt that way before, too. Blogging pressure, especially when we put it on ourselves, can be so hard. It’s important, like you said, to focus on what makes us happy πŸ™‚

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  8. aw you’re such an inspiring and amazing blogger!! Amazing post! I totally agree with you. Everyone is just so caught up with comparing their blogs to others but what really matters is that you enjoy and love blogging and are doing it for yourself. Each and every blogger is amazing and has lovely content and they need to understand that despite wht the stats are. I’m one of those ppl who is just happy with any stats I have on my blog and I just blog because I’m happy entertaining and inspiring ppl with my posts. I’m always myself and everyone should be able to follow that too! You’re one of those girls who is always being herself and that’s what I love about you ❀

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    1. Aww thank you so much! ❀ I agree, all bloggers are amazing and do a fantastic job at whatever they choose to write about! My favorite bloggers are the ones who are just being themselves, like you! πŸ’œπŸ˜Š thanks girl!! x

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  9. Well said Maggie!! I have definitely been in both groups of bloggers. Even now, I look at others and occasionally think I want more. But then I remember of how I felt when I first started blogging, and where I am now. I didn’t think it was possible. I love writing and the content that I make for my blog! It’s important to step back and reflect on what makes us happy πŸ™‚

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  10. Maggie, you speak the truth, and my heart! Just earlier today, I had wrote, “Jesus never saw the numbers, just the person.” And I strive to be like Jesus, with His mindset. But I am a work in progress. : )

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  11. Good points ! I started my blog to express myself and learn some writing. That way , I am going good.And it’s pointless to see what others are doing or achieving when you are satisfied with your own pace & learnings.

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  12. I love this, I have too been guilty of ‘blogger comparison’. It’s hard not to do, but everyone is different and as long as we can enjoy the process and support others in spite of their successes and failures, then we should be proud of each of our blogs! Thanks for sharing

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  13. I can’t say I’ve never compared my blog to others because I definitely have. But it’s much more enjoyable and fulfilling when I do it just for me. At the end of the day I’m happy with my blog and I still enjoy reading everyone else’s too! Lovely post Maggie!

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  14. Excellent post Maggie. I like the fact that you spoke on blog comparison and the effects that it has on bloggers (like myself at times) where we feel that we don’t have as many followers or comments as another blog.

    This goes well with pride because while pride is a good thing, it can also cause us to see others with jealously because we feel that they are “better” than us. Sometimes, the reason why you and I don’t have the followers we want is because God wants to first soften and humble our hearts.

    By humbling ourselves and allowing God to do Him, we can start to understand that everything has its season and sometimes God might keep you in a season of your life (blog comparison) until you come to the realization that it’s not about me; it’s about others.

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    1. Thank you so much πŸ™‚ I felt it was important to cover this because I know it’s a real struggle for many bloggers, myself included. That is so true; it’s crucial that our hearts are in the right place.

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