Letting Go of Past Relationships || My Freedom Story

Letting Go of Past Relationships || My Freedom Story

Throughout all of our lives, we eventually come to the time where someone we once talked to, hung out with, or even followed online can’t be part of our lives anymore. It’s a difficult decision to make, but a necessary one, as well.

The focus of today’s post, which has also been the focal point of my thoughts these past few days, is broken relationships. I’m learning to let go (as you might have seen by the title) so that I might be free. One day, I desire to experience freedom from these losses, but for now, it is a journey. There are easy days, and there are hard days; easy when I’m surrounded by family and friends, where the sad memories don’t hurt so much, and the hard days when I start feeling lonely, and I begin to miss the ones who could have been in my life. All the time, I’m reminded of what they did to me – the unkind words, the unfeeling looks, the uncaring gestures … they did not care for me as family and best friends should. I will probably be scarred by how these people have treated me.

But I’m stronger because of them. The Lord is using the pain to teach me, and to draw me ever closer to His heart. There is joy in the hurting. ❀

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Hi, guys πŸ™‚ Today, as you can see, I’ll be writing about what has been going on in my life recently.

They have made me quite sad, and in some instances angry, so it was definitely tough for me to find the joy in it, but I really, really didn’t want this to be a downer of a post. So, by challenging myself, I found the positivity in how I felt yesterday, and all the other times that this has affected me. I’ve come to realize that even though I find myself feeling so broken inside at different times, the Lord is using that for my good. There is a reason for each and every thing that has come my way. It can and will hurt me if I let it, but it can also be the foundation from where my strength begins.

It would bless me if you guys could read along. Your support is always much appreciated. I’m having a hard time with this, and all words of encouragement will certainly bring me joy. So, let’s go ahead and begin. πŸ™‚

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Leaving people that used to be in my life behind is not an easy step to take. However …

  • I am thankful for the happy memories I had with these certain people, although it is painfully hard to separate them from the awful memories those same people gave me.
  • I am thankful for the beautiful immediate family that I have, because the loss of connection with extended family doesn’t affect me half as much as it would. My parents’ and siblings’ love and care for me has helped me so much to heal.
  • I am thankful to know what it feels like when people don’t respond promptly to my messages and texts … for I now know what it feels like to virtually converse with someone who cares, and to know that they have legitimate reasons for not replying. (This is a real problem, I assure you. It has caused me much heartache.)
  • I am thankful that I have the ability to leave people that are bad for me behind; I’m thankful for the Lord’s strength in those difficult times.
  • I am thankful that the Lord orchestrated these people to be in my life in the first place; He has and still is using the pain they brought me to teach me, and to draw me closer to Himself.


I am thankful that I have been hurt, for I now know how beautiful it is to be genuinely, whole-heartedly loved.
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A huge part of me wishes I had the ability to get rid of the memories I have of the people who have hurt me … but the other part of me knows that it is all for good. May the Lord continue to use this pain, as well as any painful memories YOU have, for our good, because He can, and He will. πŸ™‚

Note: The people that come to mind when I write about these broken relationships aren’t anyone who has access to my blog. So, I just wanted to clarify that I’m not talking about any of you bloggers when I’ve said all of this!

Have a blessed Sunday, everyone. ❀

— Maggie

40 thoughts on “Letting Go of Past Relationships || My Freedom Story

  1. Thank you so much for writing this. I had to let go of a friendship about 2 weeks ago and it was very hard for me, still is really. I love what you were saying about remembering the good memories. It’s reminds me of the Dr Seuss quote ” Don’t cry because it’s over, smile because it happened.” It’s so hard to let go of relationships but sometimes it’s necessary. Thanks again for writing this encouraging post. It really inspired me. ❀

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    1. Aw, you’re welcome ☺️ I’m so very glad it helped you. It was good for me to write it, too; it helped me to see that it is possible to still appreciate the good times. ❀

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  2. Awww Maggie, so sorry you have to go through things like this you deserve all the happiness in the world but you are so right that it will make you stronger and closer to God. I think sometimes things like this happen so that God can show us that He is the most important thing, that He will never leave us, and that He is the only faithful thing we can count on. I always see this like picking weeds. You have to clear out all the weeds so the pretty flowers can grow, and flourish :):) Big hugs :):):)

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    1. It’s alright, Margaret; we all must go through things. We live in a sinful world. But just like I said in the post, God can use it for my good when I give it all to Him. πŸ™‚ Yes, I think so, too! He most definitely is the most important thing in my life. ❀ Big hugs to you, too. πŸ™‚ xxx

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  3. beautiful Maggie! I myself went through a very painful end to a relationship and it is still hard and very painful now when I think about that person. My biggest comforts have certainly been my God and my family. I’m sorry you’ve experienced that pain as well. But I know it will just make you a stronger, even more caring person πŸ™‚ Love you girl!

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  4. Very inspiring post, Maggie. We all go through things in this life. It can either make us stronger or weaker. Thank you for sharing. ❀

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  5. Healing takes time. One scripture God has used to humble me during the relationships I needed to let go of was, “Don’t throw your pearls to swine and be trampled under.” Not calling anyone swine of course, but it definitely was one I clung to a lot. So many “friends” got mad at me, angry when I expressed my pain to them, and frustrated I didn’t want to continue friendships. The truth of the matter is, they had insecurities they either hadn’t discovered yet, or didn’t want to admit. They didn’t want to work at fixing the friendships, instead it was up to me to bear the load. And God showed me, I didn’t have to anymore. I tried, and did my best. I also struggle with people not responding! I try so hard not to be sensitive about it!! But it’s hard, probably because I respond as quickly as I can, but with internet as a means of communication, some don’t look at it that way. And then, they have have school, outings, family, etc, so assuming only makes us negative and thinking they don’t like us. When the truth is, we may be a little impatient. But then, there are some people who have lost interest in us, and just don’t say so. Thank you for being open and honest Maggie. I can relate a lot. The best part? You will heal COMPLETELY! You will continue to be able to use these experiences to help others feel like they aren’t alone. Your light is shining through. : )

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    1. That is such an important quote to remember. Thank you for sharing your experience. It’s quite difficult not to take peoples’ unkind gestures personally; I’ve been there. You’re welcome πŸ™‚ The healing process sure takes a while, but I know that He is healing me. I hope that He has healed you, too πŸ™‚

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      1. It took time : ) which is why I shared. When I let go of the toxic friendships, that was a major part of the healing process, and then working on giving God the burdens left behind because of it.

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  6. Thank you for posting this. When we moved, I had to let go of so many friendships. Yes, I still had them as friends, but instead of seeing them once a week I saw them once a year. It’s so hard, but God will help you, me, EVEYONE!!

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